Preparing For the Unexpected

Even though my husband and I are both fairly young and in great health, we’ve decided to get on the ball and get our wills done. Like many people, we’ve been putting this task off, but now it’s time to site down and spend some time planning. After all, unexpected things happen.

I’ve been gathering information over the last couple months, but hadn’t really sat down and done anything. This week, I decided to go ahead and figure out what we need to get done. Needless to say, I was a bit overwhelmed at first.

What I discovered is that we need to do a lot more than just create a will. Here’s a peek at our to-do list:

  • Will
  • Revocable living trust
  • Executor
  • Beneficiaries

Most of this stuff was at least vaguely familiar, but I wasn’t sure of all the details. Thus, I decided to look a few things up and answer some questions that had been bothering me.

We don’t have any children, but since that’s a possibility, I looked into that angle a bit. Of course, if you do have children, these things are even more important as you’ll want to protect them in the event of your death.

It’s never a pleasant thought, but having the appropriate documents in place can give you some peace of mind knowing that you’ve done all you could to take care of your family.

Having a will vs. a revocable living trust

I was surprised to discover that creating a revocable living trust was recommended along with a will. I hadn’t really heard the term, so I decided to investigate. A last will and testament is a legal document that basically designates how your money and estate will be distributed after you die. You can also include your burial wishes and if necessary, you can name the guardian for your children.

When creating wills for couples, you can opt for mirror-image wills, where each spouse creates a nearly identical will in favor of the other. This is different from a joint will, where both spouses share one will. I found that joint wills can be more difficult after one spouse dies, which is the opposite of what we want. We would like to make the difficult process as easy as we can for each other.

A revocable living trust is a document that allows you to accomplish many of the same things as a will. A big advantage of a revocable living trust is that there’s no need to have a probate court weigh in on things. I also discovered that you can include in your trust a plan for who would handle your assets should you become incapacitated.

Why have both? If you have any assets that aren’t included in your trust, then your will serves as a backup to ensure that your last wishes are carried out.

Things to consider when preparing your documents

After deciding to create a will and/or living trust, there are still some issues that need to be addressed.

  • Who are your beneficiaries?
  • What property and other assets will you include?
  • Who will serve as your executor?
  • If both of you die, who will serve as guardian of your child(ren)?

My husband and I need to sit down and really talk about this. For example, we have to decide if our assets will be split between our siblings and parents, or if we should just include our siblings.

Other considerations: life insurance

My husband and I got term life insurance policies to cover expenses if one of us dies in the coming years. Deciding on how much life insurance you should have for the well-being of your family involves a lot of thought. That being said, there are some general rules of thumbs that you may want to consider.

  • What is the life insurance for? Do you intend on supporting your family off the proceeds? Do you want them to pay off the mortgage? What about leaving behind a cushion of some sort?
  • Do you have a life insurance plan with your employer? Some jobs offer a small life insurance policy at no cost to employees. Check with your Human Resources department to see if you already have at least a bit of coverage.
  • What’s your annual income? Insurance companies often give ranges of 8-12x your annual income. If you know your family’s needs, simply choose a multiple that makes sense for you.

One final thing… Make sure you keep the documents in a safe location. Be sure that your executor and spouse know where they are so they can easily find them if something bad happens.

Thoughts on preparing for the worst

Preparing for your demise takes time, but doing so will ease the pain and stress for your loved ones as they go through a very difficult time.

If you’re looking for more info, here are some resources that I found useful:

I’m curious to hear your thoughts. What have you done to prepare your loved ones?

One Response to “Preparing For the Unexpected”

  1. Anonymous

    We established those documents years ago. However, I’m taking some new approaches.

    First, along your lines, we have a Revocable Living Trust, Wills, Powers of Attorney, Health Care Powers of Attorney, Living Wills and HIPAA Release documents.

    We had those discussions, and selected the people close to us who would manage finances and/or care for the kids.

    Once that was complete, we didn’t need to revisit those topics until some event occurred, such as more kids (we now have three), we moved, or some change in
    the life of those who will take on things for us if we are unable to. For example, one person who would raise our kids went through some life changes to where this would no longer be an option for him, so we changed our plan.

    Also included in our “vital records” is Birth Certificates, home Warranty Deed, Title Policy, Auto Titles, Insurance Policies.

    For all of these documents, I have the originals in zip-lock bags (to protect from water) in a fire-proof safe (to protect from fire. If you have a fire, you will also get a *lot* of water!). I have another copy of all of this in a safety deposit box at the bank. Another copy in my file cabinet at work. I’ve also scanned the documents into PDF format, and have them on the main computer, and on a portable hard drive that I use to back up photos and important files. It is also stored in the SDB and updated quarterly.

    Redundant? Sure. But the purpose in all of this is to help your survivors to work through your affairs during, as you say, “the unexpected”.

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